How to Become "That Girl": A Guide to Elevating Your Life
First and foremost, who exactly is “That Girl”? “That girl” is devoted to herself and her self-growth. She puts herself and her goals at the top of her priorities. She knows what she wants and she goes after it because she knows ONLY SHE can achieve those goals others deem as unrealistic and unattainable. She loves herself first and foremost and treats herself with respect and kindness whilst being consistent and disciplined towards her goals. She is not male-centered and doesn’t put other women down for the approval of a man. She is positive and has a growth mindset. She knows what makes her feel best and what suits her best. She is unapologetically herself and loves people for being themselves.
She is self-confident and focused on herself and her self growth but she is not selfish. She has fun with her friends and genuinely cares for them while keeping her boundaries and standing her ground.
Also that girl knows the importance of resting and taking things easy from time to time. She recognizes she is a human not a machine so she rests fully when necessary and doesn’t beat herself up or put herself down when she rests and has fun.
Becoming "That Girl" isn’t about striving for perfection—it’s about embracing your best self through healthy habits, a strong mindset, and self-care. It's about showing up for yourself every day, setting goals, and pursuing a lifestyle that makes you feel happy, fulfilled, and empowered. If you're ready to step into this elevated version of yourself, here’s how you can start.
1. Start Your Day with Purpose
That girl doesn’t wake up without a purpose. She has things to do, places to go, and herself to improve. She knows how important morning is and how having a consistent morning routine helps cultivate focus and energy. Remember girls in this economy our focus and energy is our most precious assets. Use them with purpose.
Wake up early and take a moment for yourself before diving into social media. One hour without social media will do wonders for your energy and attention.
Hydrate, stretch, and move your body—whether it’s yoga, walking, or a short workout.
Journal your thoughts, affirmations, or priorities for the day. In the morning, the gratitude journal will get you in the mindset of being productive and mindful.
Eat a nourishing breakfast that fuels you from within. Choose healthy breakfast options like oatmeal, eggs, avocado, and yogurt instead of cereals.
Take time to get ready in a way that makes you feel confident and put together. Have a getting ready for the day ritual. Even if you are not getting out of the house, changing into different clothes than your pajamas, doing skincare or even makeup, and doing your hair in a simple but pretty way will help you to get into the mindset of a woman who is ready to seize the day.
A structured and intentional morning routine builds discipline and motivation, allowing you to move through your day with purpose.
2. Strengthen Your Mindset
That girl knows the power of her thoughts and mindset. She never “jokingly” puts herself down, keeps her thoughts positive, and maintains mental discipline. Your thoughts shape your experiences. A resilient and positive mindset is key to becoming the best version of yourself:
Practice gratitude by reflecting on what you appreciate daily. Everything starts with gratitude. That girl is grateful and recognizes how blessed she is.
Reframe self-doubt and negative thoughts into encouraging affirmations. Observe your thoughts. Sometimes, we don’t even realize the negative self-belief because it’s just so natural and passes our consciousness without us even noticing. So I suggest writing down all the limiting beliefs you have about yourself and intentionally replacing them with positive affirmations.
Set and maintain boundaries that protect your emotional and mental well-being. People who are genuinely happy about your achievements and help you grow are the people we need to keep close. You can have other friends who are only for going out, at school, at work etc but always keep healthy boundaries and learn to say “No” when necessary.
Surround yourself with uplifting influences and create an inspiring environment. Treat your environment as sacred. Make your Instagram feed, your music playlist, and your room a reflection of the woman you want to be.
Learn to embrace failure as part of growth—every setback is a lesson that pushes you closer to your goals. Remember, everything is happening for you. Even if it seems like it’s a failure now, in reality, it’s just another stepping stone for you to become who you are meant to become.
A strong mindset is the foundation of confidence and self-assurance, allowing you to navigate challenges with grace and resilience.
3. Prioritize Your Well-Being
Taking care of your body is an act of self-respect and contributes to your overall confidence:
Choose nourishing foods that make you feel good from the inside out. Although we all like to eat crispy chicken, cheesy pizza, and delicious chocolate ice cream. Sadly, those foods never make you feel good afterward. Your stomach will be bloated, and you wake up looking puffy. Your mind and body is connected and the food you consume directly affects your concentration, mood, attention, and cognitive performance.
Find a form of movement you enjoy, whether it’s Pilates, dance, or weight training. Do what makes you feel good and energized. You don’t HAVE TO do pilates if it makes you miserable. Listen to your body.
Establish a calming nighttime routine to ensure restful sleep. Limit your screen time before sleeping. Replace doom scrolling on TikTok with visualizing your dream before falling asleep.
Stay hydrated and care for your skin as part of your self-care ritual.
Schedule regular breaks to recharge and avoid burnout. Have one day dedicated to relax and recharge every week. Do what makes you feel good and what makes you happy. Also, it’s important to review your week and reflect on the lessons you’ve learned and all the things you achieved for the last week. It will keep you motivated to keep improving. Trust me
Your physical well-being impacts how you feel on a daily basis, so taking care of yourself should always be a top priority.
4. Create a Balanced & Aesthetic Life
Living with intention means designing a space and lifestyle that reflect your values and aspirations:
Keep your surroundings tidy and create a space that brings you peace.
Organize your daily schedule with planners or digital tools.
Invest in a wardrobe that aligns with your personal style and confidence. If you don’t know your personal style, start with things that you like and things that suits your body type as a start.
Develop a self-care routine that feels natural and fulfilling.
Curate an environment—both physically and digitally—that inspires you and aligns with your goals. Notice how you feel about certain people’s posts online, and if they make you feel negative, unfollow them or hide their updates if it’s someone you have to keep in touch with. Only surround yourself physically and mentally with things that are good for you and help you to grow or be happy.
Your surroundings play a big role in your energy and motivation, so make sure they support the life you’re working towards.
5. Set Goals & Keep Evolving
Being "That Girl" is about continual growth and striving for new heights:
Define meaningful goals and create actionable steps to achieve them. Big goals can be daunting, so divide them into small actions you can do daily. Focus on the little steps you can take rather than being overwhelmed with your big goal.
Read books, take courses, or listen to podcasts that challenge your thinking. There are endless resources for you to learn from for free. Instead of consuming meaningless content, use your time and attention wisely and for your own good. But I’m not saying ONLY read and listen about self-help.
Explore new skills and hobbies that excite and inspire you. We grow exponentially when we learn new skills that challenge our comfortable way of living. Do that thing that fascinates you and will help you learn more about yourself than any self-help book.
Stay committed and disciplined while allowing yourself grace along the way.
Reflect on your progress regularly and make adjustments to stay aligned with your vision. Track your habits and reflect on them regularly to keep motivated.
Growth isn’t about achieving everything at once but about making consistent progress toward your dreams.
6. Own Your Confidence & Authenticity
True confidence isn’t about appearances—it’s about embracing who you are and owning your presence:
Speak kindly to yourself and approach life with self-compassion. Even if you fail, instead of beating yourself up, see yourself as your best friend and treat yourself with kindness and compassion. Learn from the mistake. Because the purpose of failing is to learn from them.
Celebrate your individuality rather than comparing yourself to others. Comparison is a thief of joy and growth. Comparison enables us to judge ourselves and blinds us from seeing the good in us. Make your mind so powerful to the point that there is no room for comparison.
Pursue your passions unapologetically and trust your instincts. Remember that if you can think about it, you can do it. You will be shocked at how many people live life without even being able to dream as big as you. So go for it and be resilient even in hard times.
Move through life with a sense of self-respect, grace, and inner peace. Respect your time, your body, your energy. People sense how we think of ourselves and respond accordingly. Life gets easier when you are focused on yourself and your peace.
Be mindful of how you carry yourself—your energy and self-assurance speak louder than words. Ever wonder how some women get so much love and respect by simply existing? Because they respect themselves and that energy is so powerful and magnetic.
Confidence isn’t something you wake up with one day—it’s built through daily habits, self-reflection, and intentional choices.
Conclusion
Becoming "That Girl" isn’t about achieving an idealized aesthetic—it’s about living with purpose, self-love, and dedication to personal growth. By incorporating these habits into your life, you’ll not only elevate your lifestyle but also build a deeper connection with yourself. It's not about fitting into a trend but about designing a life that genuinely makes you happy.
The most important thing? Stay authentic to who you are. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to self-improvement. Find what works for you, embrace your journey, and enjoy the process of becoming the best version of yourself.
Ready to embrace the best version of you? Start today, and enjoy the journey ahead!
